So you just went out with this guy, and OMG, fireworks were flying all over the place.

It may have been your very first date, but you can see your entire future ahead of you.  You’re not too proud to admit you even found yourself daydreaming for a second or two about what your kids would look like.

Hold your horses, girl, it was just one date – one of the most important yet equally scary first takes on entertaining the thought of getting into a relationship with this person.

Before you proceed to text him the minute you close your apartment door, let’s hit the pause button for one minute.  Is it really the smartest thing to do to text him before he texts you?

Uh, not so much.

The first date is very tricky – the guy always puts his best foot forward, turning on all the charms and showing you his very best behavior. He says all the right things, puts you on a pedestal, and sparks are just flying all over the place.

But is this connection for real? And should you bite the bait he’s throwing at you?

Even if the guy seems to get serious right away, it’s always the better idea to step back a little.

“But he said all the right things and showered me with compliments – that must come from his heart.”  This must be what you’re saying in your head right now.

But don’t they all?

This is your very first date, so of course he’ll say the right things; you haven’t had enough time together to see him any other way.

Despite him putting you on a pedestal, keep your cool and don’t read too much into it.

“But our connection was magic – now THAT you can’t fake.”

Sparks may have been all over the place, but that’s not your only requirement, is it?

When you see someone attractive, aren’t there sparks, too?  Chemistry and fireworks can occur with anyone you find attractive, but true connection is built over time.

If indeed you really had a deep connection, you wouldn’t want to scare him off by being too excited. Keep the fire burning but don’t get too close or you’re bound to get burnt.

“But he made me feel like a princess and no one has ever treated me this way.”

Uh-oh, there comes the problem.

If you spilled the beans and told him no other man has treated you this way, what does that tell him? That nobody else looks at you this way? That he’s the first guy ever to treat you like a lady? Can you just imagine the pressure you’re giving him?

Hhhmmm, you seem to be making a lot of excuses for wanting to get serious right away. But unless either of you are dying tomorrow, you have all the time in the world to get to know this guy, and figure out if you really do like him, and vice versa.

Give him the chance to court and woo you – the harder he works for something, the greater the reward. Tease him a little bit and keep him guessing. Don’t give him the home run when all he deserves is first base – for now.

Even though he said the right things and sparks were flying, a high quality guy knows that a high quality girl requires more than the right words and the right behavior on a first date to convince her that you belong together.

Take your time, make him work for it, and once he does deserve you, the sparks will be more than just mere fireworks.